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You know networking matters. Everyone says so. But when you're in the moment — sending a connection request, making small talk at an event, or following up after a meeting — it’s easy to second-guess yourself.

Am I coming across as too eager? Too transactional? Should I even reach out at all?

I’ve been there. When I first started networking on LinkedIn, I thought I had to impress people with long, detailed messages. So I sent 500-word InMails, packed with my background, why I admired their work, and exactly how I thought we could collaborate.

I was sure they’d be impressed. Instead? Crickets. No responses.

Over time, I learned what works and what doesn’t, both from experience and from observing people who do it effortlessly. Let’s break down the biggest mistakes and how to do better.

Networking Mistakes to Avoid

Not too long ago, networking mostly happened at conferences, coffee meetings, and industry events. You had to shake hands, make eye contact, and navigate small talk in real time. Now, with LinkedIn, you can connect with anyone, anywhere, at any time.

That’s a huge advantage — but it also means more ways to make a bad first impression.

I contacted my LinkedIn community and asked them to share their biggest networking blunders. I’m also sharing some examples (sent to me and by me).

In this section, you’ll learn the virtual and in-person mistakes that make networking feel awkward, ineffective, or even damaging your professional reputation.

In-Person Networking Mistakes

Conferences, industry meetups, coffee chats — anywhere professionals gather, there’s an opportunity to make helpful connections. But in-person networking comes with its own set of challenges. You’re juggling first impressions, real-time conversations, and the pressure to be memorable, all while trying not to come across as awkward or pushy.

The good news? Most networking mistakes are easy to fix once you know what to look out for....